2 Kinds of Love the World Passes as Love – Bo Sanchez

There are two kinds of love that the world passes as love.

One is true. The other is false.

False love says, “I love you so you can love me back.” It’s a co-dependent love. It’s manipulative. It’s insecure and jealous. Because it’s not really love.

True love says, “I love you—period.” I don’t expect anything back. I love you and set you free.

If you notice, this is very close to parental love.

Compared to married love, parental love is even more unselfish.

Parents don’t love their kids so someone can do the laundry for them. (At least, the good parents I know.) Parents love their kids because they want to set them free. Parents love their kids so they can one day watch them walk out of their home and conquer the world.

“Cap = Image = …” – Renungan Singkat ttg Menghakimi

Aku pikir, tulisan renungan di bawah (from liturgical reading of the Latins) sangat bagus sekali untuk mengingatkan kita semua. With emphasis added from me.

Kalau ada yg ingin subscribe renungan Bahasa Kasih, akan bisa online soon. It will go-online.. =)

Contoh2 men-cap orang misalnya adalah:
-”Dia mah pasti telat orangnya” (Padahal udah jarang telat, tp gara2 di cap begitu, tetep aja image-nya telat terus)
-”Dia mah masi anak2″ (Padahal udah makin dewasa, tp di cap jadi anak kecil terus, ga bertumbuh2)
-”Dia mah bgini bgini bgini” (Padahal kenyataannya adalah berbeda…)
-etc

Alw
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Senin, 22 Juni 2009

Kej 12:1-9
Mzm 33:12-13,18-19,20,22
Mat 7:1-15

“Cap = image = …”
Jangan kamu menghakimi, supaya kamu tidak dihakimi. – Mat 7:1

Dalam lingkup pergaulan kita, biasanya kita mempunyai pandangan tertentu terhadap seseorang. Kalau bahasa gaulnya “cap” atau “image”. Selama image yang diberikan positif, wajar-wajar saja. Namun akan sangat berbeda jika cap yang diberikan bersifat negatif. Hal itu akan bisa sangat berpengaruh dan menghambat relasi yang terjalin.

Kecenderungan kita adalah selalu melihat orang yang bersangkutan dari perspektif kita. Sesuai dengan gambaran yang kita buat terhadap orang tersebut. Kalau sudah begini, bagaimana kita bisa bebas berelasi dengan orang itu? Bisa-bisa, apapun yang dilakukan oleh orang tersebut selalu menimbulkan pertanyaan dan kecurigaan dalam diri kita, atau bahkan selalu dianggap salah.

Bacaan hari ini menegur sekaligus mengingatkan kita. Hati-hati. Bisa-bisa karena pengaruh image yang kita berikan pada seseorang membuat kita mudah menghakimi orang lain. Mungkin kita tidak melakukannya dengan sengaja. Tapi sekali lagi, yang namanya kecenderungan terkadang tanpa sadar kita lakukan. Mari kita belajar untuk tidak memberi “cap” tertentu pada orang lain, agar kita tidak jatuh dalam menghakimi orang lain. (Jc)

Apakah saya sering menghakimi orang lain karena image yang saya miliki terhadap orang itu?

Faith of the Early Church Fathers

“If we are punished for the sake of our Lord Jesus Christ, we HOPE to be saved.” – Justin Martyr (100-165AD)

Every Effort… – St. Simeon the New Theologian

“Every effort…must be turned so as to acquire the Spirit of Christ, and thus to bring forth fruit of the Holy Spirit; for in this consists spiritual law and well-being…And in the future life, a Christian will not be tested as to whether he renounced the world, whether he fasted, whether he performed vigils,…but he will be diligently examined as to whether he has any kind of likeness to Christ, as a son to his father, as Paul says ‘…My little children of whom I travail in birth again until Christ be formed in you’ (Galatians 4:19). The likeness of Christ is composed of truth, meekness, righteousness, and together with them, humility and love of men.”
Saint Symeon the New Theologian

Is Prayer Supposed to be Fun?

http://bosanchez.ph/is-praying-supposed-to-be-fun/

Is Praying Supposed To Be Fun?

Yes, If You Use Your Own Prayer Language.

Do you struggle praying daily?

I did. For years.

But no matter what I felt, I prayed anyway. That was the “teaching” and “rule” for good Christians like me.

So each day, I went into my room and talked to God.

30 minutes, I was taught. So 30 minutes I did.

Some days, it was Ok.

Some days, it was like being root-canalled.

Or lipo-suctioned. (Just in case you’re wondering, I’ve never experienced it, but my friends tell me it’s torture.)

During those difficult days of prayer, every part of me wanted to get out of that room. I felt so dry. So empty. So distant from God.

And I didn’t know why. Why did I feel so depressed?

I simply concluded it was the spiritual dryness that saints experienced regularly (Ahem.) I read that St. Therese of Avila had spiritual dryness that lasted for 20 years. Who was I to complain?

Until I stumbled upon what I now call “Prayer Language”.

Today, I realize that perhaps many people’s spiritual dryness come from simply not loving themselves. How? By not respecting their own personality, not listening to their needs, and not using their own prayer language.

My Spiritual Arrogance

Once upon a time, I thought there was only one way of praying: My way!

My way of praying meant going to a room, sitting down or standing up, and singing, listening, and talking to God. For years, I’d teach people to do this exact same thing. I called it “Prayer Time” and it had only one definition—Mine.

I remember a woman who said, “Bo, I do my gardening every morning. And when I do, I imagine Him gardening beside me. Surrounded by the fresh air and the beauty of the flowers around me, I spend time with Him. As I dirty my hands with the soil of the earth, I’m blessed. And I feel so refreshed each morning…”

I frowned at her. I said, “That’s nice. But you still need a formal prayer time where you go into a room—and then sit down and stand up. And then use A.C.T.S.—Adoration, Contrition, Thanksgiving, and Supplication…”

Forgive me Lord for my spiritual arrogance!

Perhaps a part of me looked down on anyone who was having too much fun in their prayer life. How could she when I was suffering through my prayers?

I never saw that she was probably closer to God than I was.

Because God made her a gardener. And He was meeting her in the garden. God was talking to her with the prayer language He gave her.

What Is Your Prayer Language?

I still meet people who insist that others pray the way they pray.

“You should go to the Blessed Sacrament and kneel for an hour…”

“You should pray in tongues…”

“You should pray the Liturgy of the Hours…”

“You should pray, worship, jump, and dance like in a prayer meeting…”

“You should pray the rosary…”

“You should pray in quiet, emptying your mind…”

All of the above are prayer languages.

But never the language.

There is no such thing.

Today, I tell people to discover their own prayer language.

I did.

And boy, did I feel relieved that my prayer language wasn’t going into a room and doing the A.C.T.S. No wonder I had great difficulty! I felt disconnected.

My Prayer Language?

Here’s what I do for my daily time with God….

In the morning, I walk out of the house and pray in tongues. That’s just a few minutes of walking slowly, absorbing the sunlight, and inhaling God’s Presence and the beauty of the new day. I claim the blessings of the day. I pray the Novena to God’s Love prayer. (Note: I mail this Novena to all those who partner with my ministry and sign up in www.kerygmafamily.com FREE.)

Why do I pray outside? Because I love nature. I feel God’s Presence much more outdoors than indoors. That’s just how God made me.

I then go into the house, fire up my laptop, and “pray” my Dreambook. This is a 15-page document that lists my ultimate mission in life. (My mission in life is composed of 4 words: “To Communicate God’s Love”.) It also lists my long-term dreams as well as my goals for the year. Why do I pray this way? Because God designed my psychology as a “futurist”.

And then, I start writing. I write my prayers, my reflections, and my insights. When I do this, I feel God’s Presence in a very palpable way. Why? Because God made me a writer, and writing is my prayer language.

I no longer struggle much when I pray.

I love praying. I have fun.

Because now, prayer can be all these activities and more.

Because I’m not stuck with one way of praying.

Because I’m using my prayer language—the language God gave me.

Because prayer is a relationship, not a fixed set of things to do imposed upon me by other people.

Hey, I’ve now come to respect the prayer languages of my friends too…

Examples of Prayer Languages

• · One of my friends is a music lover. So each morning, he plays his worship CD. And he sings along for the next 8 to 10 songs, worshipping the Lord. He tells me that this prayer time really connects him to the Lord.

• · My athletic uncle jogged daily. (He’s 80 now, so he’s slowed down.) But for years, he ran for miles. And he told me that each morning, he’d talk to God like the Almighty was jogging right beside him.

• · A friend loves quiet. She walks to a nearby chapel and spends quiet time before the Blessed Sacrament. She loves it.

Praying Creatively In Difficult Circumstances

Some friends pray in creative ways by the force of their circumstances. In my immature days, I used to judge them, insisting that they “find” proper time for God. Today, I’ve come to admire them very much…

• · A friend lives in Sta. Rosa Laguna and travels two hours to work and another two hours going home. She can sleep only 4 hours a day. But thanks to the heavy roadwork now in South Luzon Express Way, her relationship with God has been repaired too. Half of her travel time, she sleeps. And the other half, she turns the bus into her private chapel.

• · A new mother can only grab snippets of prayer when she makes her baby sleep. Her “lullabies” are worship songs.

Friend, are you having difficulty praying daily?

What is your prayer language?

Tell me about it in the comments below. And share it to the world too. Someone might get encouraged by your way of praying.

And yes, forward this article to anyone who needs encouragement to pray!

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

Wisdom & Knowledge…

My question is: What are differences between Wisdom and Knowledge?

Here are some of the answers from my friends:

-Knowledge can be achieved by learning and experience,but wisdom is a gift from God (Filbert)|
-Wisdom is knowledge applied (Ellen)
-If you have wisdom, you have knowledge. If you have knowledge, doesn’t mean you have wisdom. (Ed Bird)
-Best applied knowledge given the ‘everything’ (time, place, condition, circumstances, ...everything) (Peter)
-Wisdom = Knowledge + sights (Ardhi)
-I think that Knowledge can be LEARNED… Wisdom is kind of hard to learn…. (Joo)

But here’s my answer in different form:

How can a person be wise if s/he doesn’t have the knowledge to differentiate the good and the bad, the right and the wrong? Telling somebody one way or another could lead him/her into the wrong way, wrong philosophy, wrong reason, wrong mindset, wrong standard, wrong set of things, wrong decision.
…Orang buta menuntun orang buta…

How can a person be wise if s/he doesn’t have enough broad wawasan/insights & broad experience? Telling somebody one way or another could lead him/her into the narrow philosophy, narrow mindset, narrow set of things, narrow standard, unwise decision.
…Anak SD menuntun anak SD…

How can a person be knowledgeful if s/he doesn’t learn from school & from things in life?
Telling somebody one way or another could lead him/her into the wrong facts, wrong theory, wrong history, wrong example, wrong methods, wrong practice, wrong thoughts, wrong decisions taken in life
…Anak jalanan menuntun anak jalanan…

Inspired by what Bo wrote about Success and Wisdom…:

Do You Want To Succeed? Get Wisdom – Bo Sanchez

So many people ask me, “Bo, how can you be so successful in life? Your family life is tight, your spiritual life is superb, your physical health is great—even your financial life is fantastic. How do you do it?”

Short answer: I’m an eternal student.

I don’t stop learning.

And if you want to succeed in life, you’ve got to thirst for wisdom.

I’ve got millionaire mentors and when we get together, we always talk about the new stuff we’re learning. It’s amazing how addicted successful people are to wisdom.

Note: Not knowledge. But wisdom.

How many of you know of very knowledgeable people who are very unsuccessful in life? They have degrees and may even have a Ph.D tucked in their belt—but they don’t know what to do with their mountain of facts in thir brain.

Wisdom is different. It’s practical, down-to-earth, and applicable right now—in your own life.

That’s why my seminars are life-changing.

I give wisdom, not knowledge.

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Paraphrased Quotations from What the Pope Said

Peace and reconciliation is only possible with EdUcAtIoN, RESPECT, and the rejection of violence. (Pope BXVI)

Respect & Understanding come from Dialogue that Overcomes Fragmentation (Incomplete/broken information). Unfair assumptions are misleading.. (Pope BXVI)

To eliminate divisions, it is above all necessary to remove the walls that we build around our hearts, the barriers that we set up against our neighbors.No matter how intractable and deeply entrenched a conflict may appear to be, Benedict XVI concluded, There are always grounds to hope that it can be resolved, that the patient and persevering efforts of those who work for peace and reconciliation will bear fruit in the end.

That’s why Dialogue is needed to prevent unfair&misleading assumptions which can result in others get harmed through what we think & say…!

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Kedamaian dan rekonsiliasi hanyalah mungkin dengan pendidikan, menghargai/menghormati, penolakan akan kekerasan. (Pope BXVI)

Menghargai/menghormati dan pengertian datang dari dialok yang mengatasi fragmentasi (informasi yang tidak lengkap/rusak). Asumsi yang tidak adil akan salah mengarahkan… (Pope BXVI)

Itulah mengapa dialok diperlukan untuk mencegah asumsi yang tidak adil dan salah mengarahkan, yang dapat berakibat orang lain dirugikan melalui apa yang mereka pikir dan katakan.

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Semua pasti tahu bahwa kekerasan tidak akan membawa perdamaian, tetapi malah membawa dendam, kekerasan lain, dan keresahan. Begitu juga dengan rekonsiliasi; kekerasan tidak akan membawa rekonsiliasi.

Ketika kita belum tahu benar dan hanya mendengar dari orang sekitar, kita akan membuat asumsi biasanya. Asumsi ini kemungkinan besar mengandung informasi yang tidak tepat, sehingga asumsi kita menjadi tidak tepat juga. Namun sayangnya, kita tidak sadar akan hal ini, sehingga asumsi tersebut kemudian menjadi dasar akan pikiran, perkataan, dan perbuatan kita terhadap orang lain, atau bahkan kelompok tertentu…

Kalau kita benar-benar menghargai/menghormati, maka tentunya hal tersebut tidak perlu terjadi, melainkan ada suatu cara yang sangat baik, demi menjalin hubungan dan mengerti keberadaan masing-masing.

Dialok adalah jawabannya. Dialok itu bukanlah debat; tidak ada yang menang dan kalah; tidak ada yang sakit hati maupun berusaha supaya satu pihak lebih hebat dari pihak satunya lagi; tidak ada hubungan yang menjadi rusak. Yang dicari adalah: Saling pengertian, membangun hubungan, kerja sama, toleransi, dll untuk kepentingan bersama.

Dengan adanya dialok inilah, kita akan menjadi tahu dan mengerti benar apa posisi seseorang maupun suatu kelompok akan hal tertentu. Informasi yang salah dan asumsi yang tidak adil menjadi sirna; kesamaan antara satu dengan yang lain menjadi lebih menonjol daripada perbedaan.

Maka rasa saling menghargai, menghormati, pengertian, dan kerja sama akan semakin kuat dibanding dengan rasa saling curiga, saling tidak percaya, saling berasumsi yang tidak tepat.

Lalu, rekonsiliasi dan kedamaian akan datang dari situ… Bukan kedamaian semu yang “ja-im” di depan orangnya, tetapi “backstabbing”… Tetapi benar-benar ada masyarakat yang dapat hidup berdampingan…. =)

Untuk itu, dibutuhkan hancurnya eksklusivisme ekstrim dna keegoisan diri tentunya; bukan soal diri saya, bukan soal kepentingan saya atau kelompok saya saja, tetapi juga orang lain… semuanya.

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Lean and Six Sigma “Vastly Overrated”

From www.Lean.org

Lean and Six Sigma “Vastly Overrated”

“Well, all I can say is that lean thinking hasn’t saved Toyota Motor Corporation from plowing into severe losses alongside everyone else in this downturn. Tell me how lean helped any of the major automotives to get forecast demand at a ‘whole-of-enterprise level’ correct. Tell me how lean helped any of them (they all practice lean techniques in assembly now) to keep their assembly and distribution and other resources costs variable. They have all got too many plants, too many employees, and too many dealers/distributors (and now far too much inventory).

“Lean and six sigma are vastly overrated as whole-of-enterprise management systems. They are great for addressing inventory, cycle time, and certain aspects of operational productivity but they don’t add anything new when it comes to capacity planning and demand forecasting over the longer term.”

FILIOQUE: A Response To Eastern Orthodox Objections – Mark J. Bonocore

“The Filioque controversy which has separated us for so many centuries is more than a mere technicality, but it is not insoluble. Qualifying the firm position taken when I wrote The Orthodox Church twenty years ago, I now believe, after further study, that the problem is more in the area of semantics than in any basic doctrinal differences.” (Bishop Kallistos Ware, Diakonia, quoted from Elias Zoghby’s A Voice from the Byzantine East, p.43)

Fyi, Kallistos Ware is an Orthodox Bishop while Elias Zoghby is a Melkite-Catholic Bishop.

The quote above (emphasis mine) from renowned Eastern Orthodox bishop and scholar Kallistos Ware illustrates how even a keen and scholarly Eastern mind (such as that of the good bishop) can easily overreact and zealously mischaracterize the doctrine of Filioque. While a Westerner might be tempted to attribute this to blind prejudice on the part of the East, the reality is that both East and West have so poorly communicated with one another on this issue over the centuries that it is easy to understand why an Easterner would object to Filioque as strongly as many do.

Read the rest here: http://www.catholic-legate.com/articles/filioque.html

I think the article explains things very clearly… I wonder what the Orthodox brethren’s thoughts on the article.

1. Language difference

2. Canons at Council of Ephesus

3. Writing of the Fathers and Popes

4. Ecumenical, or Regional that became Ecumenical

5. etc…

Feast of the Holy Cross – 3/15/2009

Today, the 3rd Sunday of Lent, March 15th of 2009, is the feast of the Holy Cross, celebrated by the Byzantine rite Churches… Below is a message and a prayer by Archbishop Cyril Bustros of the Melkite Church (with emphasis added).

Sunday of the Holy Cross – The Cross is never seen in the Christian faith apart from the Resurrection. Because love is stronger than death, the reward of love is Resurrection, the eternal life, as St. John wrote in his first epistle: “We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love our brothers” (1 john 3:14). And that is out victory as St. John said in the same epistle: “Any one who was born from God has already overcome the world; this is the victory over the world: our faith” (1 John 5:4).

Holy Cross Prayer: Lord Jesus Christ, as we come to revere your Cross today, we revere not wood or metal, but the symbol of the greatest victory mankind has ever known: Your victory over sin and death, a victory in which we all share through Baptism and faith, a victory which has changed hatred into love and murder into forgiveness.

Be always with us to help us to be ourselves the sign of Your Cross in the world of today: to spread light where there is darkness, love where there is hate, hope where there is despair, to give a cup of cold water where there is thirst, and a piece of bread where there is hunger, and above all to give to everyone the bread of life. Amen.

Proud to have John Paul 2 as my Pope

I just watched movie of John Paul 2’s life based on true story. Actually the whole movie takes about 6 hours (2 DVDs); the first 3 hours are about his life before he became the Pope while the 2nd 3 hours are after he became the Pope.

What I found in the movie was….. unbelieveable…! His life is full of colors.. He grew up in Poland during Hitler’s regime; he almost got killed and he saw people were killed right away…  He got to hide here and there to save his life and other people. After that, Poland was under Stalin’s (Russian) power and the Church was supressed because the Communist ideology is contrary to the Church’s ideology. His priest friend was killed as well as other people he knew. He is a good thinker and he learned a lot about the language of God, which is LOVE.

Surprisingly, somehow he could lead the faithful uniquely in the faith without directly opposing the Communist ideology and that’s why the Russian didn’t oppose him as much as his Bishop and other priests/Bishops in Poland. I think this is because he talked to his people using the language of God’s LOVE, not using ideology in the front. This made him well-known an later he was elevated to the Bishop-rank and later elected to be the Pope.

He spoke and influenced people to achieve peace and find the common goods. His thoughts have influenced people inteligently and his “Theology of the Body” also influenced the young people and how we look at our bodies and life nowadays in the light of the Gospel, in contrary of the hedonistic life.

When he became the Pope, he wasn’t boastful since he got the high position in the Church, rather he was humble and showed loving attitude to others; even to the person who tried to kill him by shooting him while he greeted the crowds in St. Peter square. He could have died if it hit him a few millimeters away.  He came to the jail, talked to the shooter, and forgave him. I can’t really imagine this…!

He went to countries and gave a message of Hope to the people. He opposed wars and supported LOVE instead (the 9/11 situation).

He met with Mother Teresa from Calcutta and talked about the LOVE for the poor and suffered.

Also, he was questioned by the Atheists and people about what God looks like, abortion, contraception, sexuality, etc, and his answers are pretty interesting.

He started the World Youth Day and he met the young people to give an encouraging speech. He had a great passion in his life; even when he was ill…

People always loved him… and all others from all countries respected him much because of what he had done & who he was. When he was dying, a bunch of people prayed to God for him outside the hospital; this shows how the people loved the POPE! I can’t imagine how much he meant to the people…. and I can’t imagine how come a person can be something like that..

In fact, a bunch of representatives from countries came to his funeral, including different religious leaders, presidents/prime ministers, political leaders, different church leaders, etc… I just can’t imagine how come, just a person like him, on this earth, is respected so much by the world!

I don’t think there’s any person in the modern world could do that much… And I could see pretty clearly why he could influence the world…. that is, because he was the POPE! He was not just a local church leader, a pastor of a church that’s limited by a nation, an elder, or whatever the name is… He was a POPE! The Bishop of Rome! …who was the successor of Peter the Apostle… of the one, holy, catholic/universal, and apostolic Church! No one could have this kind of role except the POPE himself.

I’m proud to have John Paul 2 as my Pope… Thus I’m proud I belong to this Church… =)

Lent: Do we put God first before chicken?

“Manusia hidup bukan dari roti saja (Man doesn’t live from bread alone)”… This is what Jesus said when tempted while fasting. Interestingly, when the devil came to Jesus in different forms, Jesus always used the Old Testament Scripture to fight against it. So we can see how close the OT and Jesus (New Testament)…

If we look at the OT, we’ll see that the Israels ate bread like the Indonesians eat rice nowadays as their primary food. We can see how God gave the Israels breads from above when they asked for it through a prophet…

In this Lent season, we try to deny our flesh by not eating meat every Friday (in the Latin Church). But maybe we should think more than just meat.

If Jesus said, “Man doesn’t live from bread alone” based on the context that bread is the primary food for Israels, then it is like “Man doesn’t live from RICE alone” for the Indonesians… But can we survive if we don’t eat rice???

That’s a question you need to ask yourself during this Lent. Think about it. Can we live without eating rice…?? Maybe just for this Lent season… But that’s what it is if we want to know what Christ did when fasting.

Do we put God in the first place? Or do we put Chicken or rice or facebook or youtube or games or homework in the first place? If we claim that we put God in the first place, then we should show that we really put Him first. Maybe we can spend minutes in prayer before going to bed, instead of facebooking or youtubing before going to bed (and FORGOT to pray, or fell asleep and thus not praying).

Remember, “Man does not live from bread alone, but from the Word of God.” This is the meaning of Lent. We try to get closer to God through prayer, almsgiving, reading scripture, fasting, doing good things, etc…

Is God higher than chicken? Then you should be able to live with God and without chicken.

Is God higher than rice? Then you should be able to live with God and without rice.

Is God higher than TV/facebook/youtube/internet? Then you should be able to live with God and without TV/facebook/youtube/internet….

May your Lent be so meaningful… not just time that passes without any meanings… This is our ‘Ramadhan’…  =)

God bless you!

(*kutipan kitab suci tidak dijamin tepat, perlu doble check)

Worship or Venerate?

ST. JEROME: “We do not worship, we do not adore, for fear that we should bow down to the creature rather than to the creator, but we venerate the relics of the martyrs in order the better to adore him whose martyrs they are”.

People (can) change; Whose point of view? Relationship

Remember, people can change; maybe it is more correct to say that people change. 5 years ago we were not the same as we are now. We could change to be better or to be worse.

If you saw his/her weaknesses 5 years ago, you might not see them again now, or you might see them but just a little bit… since s/he’s working on it. Or you might see him/her still the same…

Or is it your point of view that needs to be fixed, so that you can see him/her differently (that in fact s/he has changed to be better)…?

We have to remember that people can change. How much you know about him/her now, compared to 5 years ago, depends on your relationship…

Well, the “5 years ago” could actually be “1 year ago”, “3 months ago”, and so on… depending on the person…

A good relationship should be able to work together to overcome the weaknesses of each, or to remind each to work on him/herself.

Whatever is left should be accepted… or dumped. Compromising each other is important in a relationship.

Being a LOVEABLE person is a must! Have a love that focuses not on ourselves, but on our couples.

Another thing, Communication is the KEY! Think outside the box…

Change to the better is a change as a result of working on ourselves through everyday life.  Show that you’re not the same; you are a better person, a new person, a grown up person…

My Comments about Being Single or Married

One day I read my friend’s quotation on a website… It says:

“Being single isn’t a bad thing. It’s a tough choice, but isn’t wrong”

My close friend asked me to comment it on the website… so here’ my comment:

“Being single or married, neither is a bad thing and neither is wrong. There is absolutely NoThInG wrong with being single… It is a choice, but it should not be a tough one. There are some limitations by both being single or married. But it does NoT mean we will suffer FoReVeR by being single or married… It depends on how we LiVe our life and how we ThInK about our life. We can make our life better both by being single & married; we can live a HaPpY LiFe by being single or married.”

“Yes, we can live a HaPpY or MiSeRaBlE life as a single or a married couple. In fact, we’ll have more responsibilities if we’re married, and thus we’ll have more DiFfIcUlTiEs than just being a single man…”

“Since we know that not everybody will end up being married, we should not worry too much… We can try to the best of our abilities, but whatever we end up, as a single or married, it is absolutely OK… =)”

“I think we’ve seen miserable singles and married couples in our life… but we would like to be the HaPpY singles or married couples in the end… =) Being single or married does not mean we will be happy… It can only happen if we CHoOsE to be happy and WoRK on it…”

It’s kinda long, but I think I gave my wise words (uheauheauheauhea =P ). Our surroundings tell us that being single is a bad thing and wrong, and is unhappy… But these are all wrong statements!

Instead of having a self-pity just because we are singles, we should see this kind of thing from a different angle; outside the Box… It is us who decides whether we are happy or unhappy, not because of being single or married, but because of our choice. This is not a tough choice, but it might be tough when we work on it…